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Kells1998

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Hi everyone,

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post this here. I'm Kells, I'm 28 years old and sewing is my favourite craft. I have anxiety and autism (I struggle a lot with this however, my family doesn't know as I don't feel comfortable enough to speak to them). I don't have any friends which leaves me feeling isolated at times since I have no one to share it with. I've tried posting on Reddit before to find people like me and maybe make some online friends I can feel excited about crafting with. I haven't joined any real life groups as many of the members are far above my age range. When I do meet people my age, I struggle to be social enough with them to maintain a friendship so, I thought this might be a low stress way for me to find my people.

I'm making a baby blanket for my sister's baby that's due in December, if anyone has any tips or tricks for adding the backing fabric or for adding binding on the edge, I'd love to hear them. If anyone also has any tips for making time to sew when you have a high stress job and busy lifestyle, I'd also really love to hear them xx

· 1 week ago
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Hi Kells, really lovely to have you here so a massive welcome!! This is a lovely space to connect with other people who love sewing, and if you ever fancy trying out an online social with us we are super friendly. Feel free to email me before if you are anxious or have any questions about how it all works.

In terms of baby blankets I’m afraid I’m not the one to ask as I haven’t ever made a quilt but I know we have lots of people here who have and I’m sure they’ll be along with some tips!

· 1 week ago
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Kells1998

Oh thank you so much 🥰. I'll definitely keep it in mind, I need to boost my confidence a bit before I do! So lovely to meet you ❤️

· 1 week ago
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fudge1_1mellow

Hi Kells,

Im autistic and adhd and so glad you're here.

I dont have advice for making a baby blanket. Just bought a sewing machine so very much a beginner, but my favourite resource is youtube or reddit when Im trying to figure something out. And then this community page as well.

I wish you all the best

· 1 week ago
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Kells1998

Thank you so much for the tips! I find I want to talk about my sewing to people but no one cares to listen so it can be isolating. So happy to meet you ❤️

· 1 week ago
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fudge1_1mellow

Totally understand the isolation. Always happy to ramble about sewing or whatever hobbies.

· 1 week ago
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Naomijane

Hi Kells,

I totally understand being put off in-person sewing groups because they seem like the wrong age group. I'm 37 and feel like I don't belong to older or younger cohorts. But here online there's such a good mix of people that age becomes irrelevant and everyone's been super nice.

Finding time to sew if you're busy can be tricky, but I find I can get a lot done whilst cooking dinner. 10 minutes for the oven to heat up, I pin some seams. 30 mins cooking time, spend 20 mins sewing those seams. I also set my morning alarm 30 minutes earlier than needed to give me sewing time before work. Doing a bit here and there might surprise you as to how much you can achieve.

As for the baby blanket, I knitted one for my sister's first baby...and so did everyone else! She was swamped with them! (And mine was the worst so I couldn't possibly advise you, sorry)

· 1 week ago
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fudge1_1mellow

Breaking it down into chunks is such a good plan. Definitely going to try that method.

I've been thinking that I need to start and finish a project in one sitting. It felt overwhelming. Your breakdown is giving me hope

· 1 week ago
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Naomijane

I used to feel like I needed to complete my projects in one go, but doing that made me foggy headed, which led to mistakes. I'll still spend a whole day on a project, but now I make myself take breaks and/or leave the house. And honestly doing a bit at a time as I described above gets my projects done sooner, as I'm not waiting until my days off to work on them.

· 1 week ago
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Kells1998

I bet yours was amazing! It's so hard to find time but I'll definitely try your suggestion, I think I put too much on myself all at once but, breaking to down sounds like something that'd help so much!! Thank you ❤️

· 1 week ago
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Naomijane

I hope it helps! 😊

· 1 week ago
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Debbie B Plus Member

Hi Kells, you have come to the right group. Hayley is wonderful to talk to and this group is full of friendly people. Welcome and good luck to you. Missouri Star Quilt Company is a great resource on YouTube as well as Pattern Poole.

· 1 week ago
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Kells1998

Thank you so much! I've never heard of those so I'll give them a look. I've been guessing so far and so far so good but I think it'll get harder as I go! Xx

· 1 week ago
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Han Plus Member

Hi! Also autistic and have a high stress job, and two kids - slightly older than you though at 37 haha! Only tip is to just try and do something whenever you can, even if it's just 10 minutes sewing up one seam.

I only started sewing in the last couple of years but it definitely became my intensive interest and it's all I want to do and talk about, but no one in my real life sews so I can't talk to anyone about it. That's why I love this group and forum. If you've not been to a social yet, I'd recommend it. You don't have to talk and can keep camera off, but it's nice to hear other people chatting and I've learnt a lot (new patterns, sewing techniques etc).

· 1 week ago
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Kells1998

This sounds lovely! It's so hard when no one else cares and it feels like you're talking to a brick wall. You're juggling so much!! I bet sewing is your own little corner of the world like it is for me ❤️

· 1 week ago
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Han Plus Member

Yes I love it! I'm lucky that the kids are older and so I can spend longer sewing - plus they seem to love it as well so I'm enjoying passing on the hobby to them.

· 1 week ago
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Rebecca T

Hi Kells!

I'm AD(h)D and the parent of an AuADHD +anxiety daughter who is home from uni - and who I would love to sew with. So, I'm totally not your age (but still feel like I am!).

I've done a lot of quilting and, although not the most environmentally friendly, when I was learning I used to use adhesive backing or spray backing to tack down the backs of quilts before basting them so I could get them to lay flat. (the icky adhesive I used was water soluble so it came out in the wash and wasn't an issue)

Now I pin baste with a bajillion french safety pins and run the edges through my overlock to keep the edges together once I've got it quilted before I sew on the bias edging. Hope that is helpful.

Bex

· 1 week ago
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Kells1998

Love your tips! Thank you so much! Trust me, I'm open to friends not exactly my age, I think it's because I live in a town that's very heavily populated with much much older people so all of the groups are about 75+ and they're lovely people but I struggle to find other common grounds with them and appreciate they're sometimes wary of people my age! X

· 1 week ago
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Becky

hi i'm Becky

I`m autistic and and have adhd and i'm dyslexic

i'm so glad you are here

i don't have any advice on a baby blanket i'm just getting back into sewing after a long layoff so i'm having to re-learn a lot of things but this site is helping if i do need help I'll try Youtube

I wish you all the best

· 1 week ago
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Kells1998

Thank you so much! It's so lovely to see there's a lot of us in the same boat. I'm massively interested in psychology and how our minds work. Seeing other people like us who also have autism have the same issue makes me feel not so alone! Always happy to give you tips where I can but I have a weird way of learning things! I hope your projects are as lovely as your message ❤️

· 1 week ago
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Diba

Hi Kells! I sympathize with the struggle to find friends with sim interests. I have adhd, anxiety and depression, and I’m 57. My interests put me in groups with much younger people. I’m hoping to find some pals on this site.

As far as the baby blanket, my tips are to use safety pins and pin all over the blanket. Choose a simple design for the quilting such as stripes or waves. And go slow. There’s lots of tutorials on YouTube for techniques. (Fav is Donna Jordan). And no matter how perfect or imperfect your gift will be treasured!

· 5 days ago

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